The Lies We Believe – Dr. Chris Thurman

You do not have to live in obvious dysfunction for lies to be destroying your life. The most damaging beliefs are rarely dramatic. They are quiet, familiar, and feel completely reasonable — which is precisely what makes them so dangerous. In The Lies We Believe, clinical psychologist and bestselling author Dr. Chris Thurman exposes the specific false beliefs that most commonly derail emotional health, sabotage intimate relationships, and block the spiritual fulfilment every believer longs for — and delivers the truth that dismantles each one permanently.

This is not a book about other people’s problems. Every lie in this book is one that you have believed — probably today.

The Lies Exposed on the Cover Are Not Fictional. They Are Universal:

• “I must be PERFECT”
• “My UNHAPPINESS is somebody else’s fault”
• “My WORTH is determined by my PERFORMANCE”
• “If our MARRIAGE takes hard work, we must not be right for each other”
• “GOD’S LOVE must be EARNED”

Every one of these beliefs feels true. Every one is a lie. And every one — when believed and acted upon — produces measurable, predictable damage to your emotional life, your relationships, and your walk with God. Dr. Thurman names them, explains exactly how they work, and replaces each one with the truth that produces healing, freedom, and genuine flourishing.

What This Book Covers:

Self-Lies — The Beliefs That Destroy Your Relationship With Yourself:

• “I must be perfect” — the perfectionism lie that produces chronic anxiety, self-criticism, and the paralysing fear of failure
• “I must be approved of by everyone” — the approval addiction that makes other people’s opinions your emotional weather forecast
• “My worth is determined by my performance” — the performance lie that ties your identity to what you produce rather than who you are
• “I am what I feel” — why believing your emotions are reality rather than information leads to consistently poor decisions
• How to build a secure, truthful self-concept that does not collapse under criticism, failure, or comparison

Worldly Lies — The Cultural Beliefs That Shape Our Daily Choices:

• “My unhappiness is somebody else’s fault” — the victim mentality lie that surrenders your power to change your circumstances
• “Life should be fair” — why demanding fairness from an unfair world produces relentless bitterness
• “Things will make me happy” — the consumerism lie that drives people to spend what they do not have on things that do not deliver
• “You can’t teach an old dog new tricks” — the fixed mindset lie that excuses personal stagnation as inevitability
• How to build a truthful relationship with the world that produces resilience rather than resentment

Relationship Lies — The False Beliefs That Destroy Marriages and Friendships:

• “If our marriage takes hard work, we must not be right for each other” — the most destructive marriage lie in modern culture
• “You should meet all my needs” — the codependency lie that places impossible expectations on another flawed human being
• “I shouldn’t have to change” — why this belief ends more relationships than any external circumstance
• “My spouse should know what I need without me having to say it” — the mind-reading expectation that breeds resentment silently
• How to build relationships on truth rather than fantasy — and why that produces more intimacy, not less

Religious Lies — The False Beliefs About God That Block Genuine Faith:

• “God’s love must be earned” — the performance-based spirituality lie that keeps millions of believers striving rather than resting
• “God can’t forgive what I’ve done” — the lie that makes grace theoretical rather than personal
• “God should answer my prayers the way I want” — why this belief produces spiritual disillusionment when prayers are not answered on our timeline
• “I am beyond redemption” — the lie that misunderstands both the magnitude of God’s grace and the meaning of the cross
• How to build a relationship with God grounded in biblical truth rather than performance, fear, or misunderstanding

The Truth-Based Life:

• How to identify the specific lies operating in your own thinking — and the specific damage each one is producing
• The cognitive and spiritual disciplines that replace lies with truth at the level of habit rather than mere intellectual agreement
• Why knowing the truth is not enough — and the specific steps that move truth from your head to your heart to your behaviour
• How to build a daily practice of truthful thinking that transforms your emotional health over time
• The relationship between psychological truth and spiritual truth — why Dr. Thurman refuses to separate them

Who This Book Is For:

• Christians who are doing everything “right” spiritually but still struggling emotionally — and cannot understand why
• Anyone in therapy or counselling who wants a biblically grounded understanding of the cognitive roots of their struggles
• Couples whose relationships are being eroded by unexamined false beliefs about marriage, love, and commitment
• Perfectionists, people-pleasers, and high-achievers who sense that their drivenness has a darker psychological root
• Believers who carry shame, guilt, or a distorted image of God that no amount of church attendance has healed
• Anyone who has read Successful Women Think Differently, The Power of Your Mind, or Breaking Intimidation and wants the psychological depth that complements those spiritual frameworks
• Every person who has ever felt that something in them is working against them — and suspected that something might be what they believe

Why Kenyan Readers Are Buying This Book: Kenya’s Christian culture is rich, vibrant, and faith-filled — but it is not immune to the specific lies Dr. Thurman identifies. In fact, several of them — the performance-based Christianity, the perfectionism, the belief that God’s love is contingent on behaviour — are particularly deeply embedded in the Kenyan church experience. For thousands of Kenyan believers who are sincere, hardworking, and genuinely committed to their faith, this book will explain things about their emotional and spiritual struggles that no sermon, no prayer meeting, and no amount of Bible reading has yet resolved. Because the problem was never their faith. It was what they believed underneath it.

Book Details:

• 📖 Author: Dr. Chris Thurman
• 📄 Format: PDF eBook (instant download via WhatsApp or email)
• 💰 Price: Ksh 100 only
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